It is like anything else that is broken. It will not fix itself. That is why if he wants this to work out he should take 48 hours and go to Retrouvaille. That's not a lot of time to spend in order to improve your entire life. Not just for the two of you, but for your daughters too.
I realize that not everyone who goes to Retrouvaille will have as good an experience as I did. I felt like I was swooped out of the middle of the ocean and placed on the beach. From there it was just a short walk back to civilization. I literally fell back in love with my husband during the weekend. Believe me, they are not trying to get such strong results. But it happened to both of us.
I know what you mean about the 3 little words. My husband is not the type to say them often. And at that time I needed to hear them. It took at least 3 months after Retrouvaille until I heard them. Now it is 1 1/2 years later. He doesn't say them anymore. But I can see in his eyes when he kisses me, or when we have sex, that this man loves me. I don't even feel the need to hear it anymore.
There is not a couple who walks in the Retro door with both spouses really wanting to be there. One wants to go, and the other just barely agrees to go. But the program still works. I'm not saying you can't have good results from counseling. But 1 hour a week is going to take a long time to add up to the two days of a full weekend. This has the potential to give you much faster results.
