Rusty, take a deep breath honey. I'm sorry last night was so tough on you, but it was one night. It took awhile for your marriage to get to this point, it will take awhile to fix things. You have to practice patience.
I know how hard it is not to have things the way you want them and RIGHT NOW, but if you try to push them too hard, you'll only push everyone away.
Set some goals for yourself, and focus on those goals. Things that are for you...say...learn something new or plan a trip with you and daughter and son. Focusing on yourself. Live your life without expectations of how your husband should or should not be acting. Every time you do that, he swings closer to you. So keep doing that. It seems to work.
Big hugs, cause I understand how hard holidays can be.
Married: 25 years Separated: 5 years Kids: 2, ages 21 and 24 Me: 53 H: 50
