H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

[happycamper]

Every so often something comes up and it makes me wonder if I am doing the right thing by going along with the sep/D? It would be the 'morally right' thing to do, the best thing for the children (maybe?), it's what DB would say...

But then H doesn't want to stay married, we have already started the process of separating and at the moment H leaving us is not the worst thing that could happen - H saying he wants to try again would be far more frightening.

Have others had this sense of indecision? In order to start work on R now, or even to hold it open in case H changed his mind, I would have to stop all my moving forward.

Help?