Wife Filed And I Need Help With Busting ASAP

[Scott123]

Well, the OM is confirmed. I spoke to someone who not only
saw them, but who has spoken to my wife and she told them
about him, where they met, where he works etc. Not sure
how long its been going on, but that really does not
matter anyway. What matters is that it's "going on."

I also learned that she has a few thousand more dollars
of debt from family friends over what I already knew
about and also learned about some really hurtful lies
that she has been telling people about me. Ridiculous stuff.

She also just asked me again for money because she has
bills piling up and does not know what she is going
to do. That's about 5 times today now that she asked
for money and it's panicky requests now.

I called around 11PM to ask her to have the kids up
early tomorrow and she sounded really drunk!

I'll admit that my mood to the whole situation is now rapidly
changing by the minute. I'm starting to loose interest in the
whole situation. I'm really seeing a lot of resentment building
up towards her especially with the lying and neglect of the
kids not to mention the drinking around them.

Right now, I have no motivation to help her in any way at all.
I mean sure I will take care of the kids needs, but for her. I
feel like she is just trying to use me for money and nothing
more. She is cheating, gambling, drinking, smoking, going
out all hours of the night, partying EVERY weekend, neglecting
the kids, the house and everything else in her life.
Not very attractive is it?

Right now I'm really disgusted with her and the whole situation.
The worst thing is the ones that are really going to suffer
are the kids and that is where I'm really resenting her.

I feel like just telling her that I'm done with it all
and washing my hands of it.

I'll support the kids and hang out with them, but that's
it. Since she wants a divorce and we are separated I'm
not going to be used to pay bills, take care of her debts
and/or problems and be basically an ATM machine for her. As
far as gambling - well, she is going to have to face up to
that sooner than later because there's a lot of expenses
creeping up on her and not many people left to borrow
money from. She'll have to go out and get a full time job
and support herself and her habit ASAP.

Arrogant? No... just the cold hard truth of the situation.

I can't look at her the same way after this. She's
headed for a crash and burn and I want no part of
that.

So what to do now?

Well, I'm going to have a great day tomorrow with the
kids and I'm sure she'll be going out partying. I'm
also positive that tomorrow or Sat she will be hitting
me up hard for more money especially to go out. That's
when I've decided that I'm drawing the line and telling
her that she will get nothing from me anymore. I'll
provide for the kids and that's all. She will have to
find some other way to pay for bills and all her other
expenses.

The bottom line is that she wants a divorce and there's
now no reason or obligation on my part to take care of
her debts, bills and frivolous spending.

I see where I've been somewhat of a wuss with her lately
and I can see her starting to try and take advantage of
me because of it.

Let her get the OM to pay for her bills, expenses and
gambling habits. Hey, he wants to wine and dine her, well
then he can have the full package and pay her bills too.

- Scott