Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

I'm a fool... The exH of OW called me tonight. He said that his son told him that he and his mother stayed at my H's house last night.

I called H and he of course denied. He wanted to know who told me. I told him the son told the exH. He started trying to fuss at me for talking to the exH. I told him to wait a minute. I told him I didn't see where it was so wrong to talk to the exH on the phone when "she" was still working for him.

He finally admitted that she stayed the night. I told him he needed to contact his lawyer and get things going again. He said no, you do it. I said it is you that wants out so badly, so you need to be the one to do it.

I told him I couldn't understand him saying he wanted to work things out and then pulling this. I refreshed his memory of when he told me these things because I knew he would try to act like he didn't say them. Not much he could say when I gave him specific times.

He then tried to act like an a$$. I told him, "Look, I don't want to fight with you, I just want to have an adult conversation and with you telling me the truth and not lying." He then said "when, did I lie?" I said, " A few minutes ago when you told me that she didn't stay at your house"

He asked me if I wanted the divorce. I told him I was hoping to restore our marriage, but I knew it couldn't be done with only one party trying. He said,"How do you feel about me?" I said," I think you know how I feel for you or I wouldn't have tried so hard to work on our marriage" I said "If I can't make you happy then you need to go be with her if she makes you happy and quit leading me on". He then told me he still cared for me. He said but he was just afraid it wouldn't work. I told him he was absolutely right because with three people in a marriage it wouldn't work.

He said he saw positive changes in me, but I still hadn't changed totally to suit him. I said,"I don't think that is possible, and you need to quit making up excuses".

I have a question for everyone about the divorce. He filed the first time and my lawyer requested that he pay legal fees. If I file can I ask that he pay for legal fees since he filed the first time? I know I need to ask my lawyer, but I was just wondering if anyone knew.