Trouble DB'ng Again..How Do I Forget?

[Sugar and Spice]

(((W2M))) Baby steps. There is no magic cure or solution to make you forget, but you have to work through it in order for it not to be the focus of your R now. Keep GAL and find a C that can work with you. Post to us here and as hard as it is, try and control yourself. If you find yourself wanting to bring up the A or talk about it. Count to 100 before you do. Think about what you want to ask. Is it a specific question about something that relates to a situation "right now?" or is it just something that popped into your mind? Can you think about what triggers it?

I know how hard it is not to focus on their R, but OW burned her bridge with H, don't do the same thing. The texts she sent you that he sent her were done in "the fog." Remember when you were a kid and you had a new boyfriend and the stuff you would say? Thats what these A's are like. Most of them are not adult R that start the way our M's did. These are more like HS romances and our WAS's are like kids. OW sent them to you to hurt you and she accomplished what she set out to do, but in the end where is he? With you...you won, not her.

I'm not saying that you aren't entitled to your feelings, of course you are, but you need some time to work through them too. The OW in my sitch has texted me several times and fwd me stuff H sent her and it hurt like hell, but it also says a lot about her character and her insecurities as well. You can only control YOU. You didn't DB all that time to give up now...sweetie you've come too far.

Send him a goodnight to u 2 text and thats it. I'm the last person to lecture about this stuff. I'm the poster child for how NOT to DB, but I am learning about self control and this is the best place to say all of the things you can't(shouldn't) to H.

We are ALWAYS here for you.