Hi Purple, ahhh, we have so much in common. I'm going to send you a pm at that other site.

I'm headed to bed now, exhausted, & my eyes are blurry & crossed, but I'll read this again in the am, & try to offer something helpful. In the meantime, just take care of you, & rejoice in the fact that you're not alone in this.

That's all you "have" to do.

hugs

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.