"When I start behaving like the old Kathleen, I try and change my attitude, going almost straight to DBing."
I see the beautiful butterfly shaking off the transformation of change and beginning to spread her wings for her first flight. You are sensing what is best for you and learning to embrace it. I agree with Forrest this is one of the most important things you have said.
You have come far on your road of self awareness don't sell yourself short be proud of yourself! Remember what I have always said to you, 'god don't make no junk'!