Well, where to begin. My plans this weekend are only for tomorror with the kids and she has some plans as well. The rest of the weekend will be spent just hanging with the kids at the house. Actually, all except for going to the pool tomorrow I should be home most of the day. My hope if that she was asking so that she could make plans of her own based on what I was doing...but you never know. As for R talks, I have to distance myself from those but during the heated discussin yesterday she brought up how I have been ignoring her. Is that normal?
You also said that you won't expound on LRT right now but please do. I am still focused on my 180s and will be taking phx's advice about staying still. I had actually been thinking about that and an glad he brought it up as one of her complaints before the bomb was that I was always out and about albeit it was for errands etc...it's her POV that matters now.
As for something up her sleeve, she knows that financially we can't do anything until the house sells...at break even or slighly better hence her push. She Asia that she doesn't want to be here a year from now because the house won't sell...we live in SD and houses don't really sell in the winter. Something with the sub zero tempa and snow. In any case, the way I am looking at LRT is such:
No R talk No pursuing type behaviours do my 180s Detach PMA GAL Engage in small talk when around W Respond to email and calls but not right away
What am I missing? I have ro work hard this week to stop R talk...avoid it like the plague. I also won't bring up C anymore. C was going to reach out to her next week anyway for IC but I won't bring up MC again until she does.
Still going to try WOA during small talk. I actually did it tonight when I came back. I basically thanked her and told her why instead of just the usual thank you. I also look forward to any advice that PDT can give. Thank you for that Sandi!
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