Hello Jeff! You've been busy today, friend. (((((((((HUGS))))))))
I love the idea of the smiley face on the bathroom mirror. And, I think your situation is quite different than the adorable cookie's, so I think it would be OK to ask your wife at some point in the future if she would like to work on the marriage, but you're going to have to word that very carefully. Maybe something along the lines of, "I deeply care about you and your happiness and would like to work together to build a happier home life. I think it would be worth the risk for us both to actively work on our marriage." But you'll word it much better and throw in a bunch of that Jeff charm we all love so very much.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Jeff...do the smiley face tonight! Its a New Moon, a new start. Do the face! Or the 'good morning'.. I'm dying to kmow how it works out. I think we're realy onto something here....
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
