Firstly I would like to thank all of you lovely people that helped to lock my thread over in Newcomers.. So thank you OD (a.k.a Lisa), JeninVen (a.k.a Jen), Dry Heat (a.k.a Jeff) and Kalni (a.k.a Sunshine or Maria).
I also want to thank Ali for her post... you are such a sweetheart. And can you believe I saw H tonight and forgot to ask what time he was born? I'll see his Mom on Saturday so I'll ask her!
This is my 7th thread! I've recently looked back to how I sounded in my first thread and I am SOOOOO grateful that I've gotten to the point where I know I will survive without my H. I, like most others on this board, thought that my world was over when this nightmare began.
So in a nutshell.. My H dropped the bomb that he wasn't happy at the end of November 2007. He moved out in January 2008... So pretty much December, January, February and March were all cr@p. I quit my job that I REALLY disliked at the end of March and have been home with my daughter ever since. H has told me he loves me, I get a kiss hello and goodbye, he talks futuristically about us at times, we bought a condo together that will be ready in late 2009 or 2010 and yet he still is not living at home. I think that's the gist of it.
Journaling
Rec'd a report card for D2 from her daycare.. and it's got me worried. She was ranked as "concerned that she is not developing at the right level" or something like that. My D2 is a very spirited little girl. She doesn't like to sit down.. she is go, go, go! Has a lot of energy and is very easily distracted. My main concern about her is that she doesn't listen. It is something I've been working on with her for months.. and I know it's a problem at daycare too. But, the daycare wants to book a meeting with me (and H?) to discuss their concerns. D2 gets letters and numbers mixed up and doesn't really try when I try to work on colours with her.. she's a very smart child it's just that she doesn't focus. Anyway, I feel like I'm failing my daughter. I think I'm just going to try to make learning more fun for her. I haven't really pushed it and I guess it's time that I show her how important letters, numbers and colours are.
Other than that I met my H for a movie matinee today. We went to see Wanted with Angelina Jolie. It was great. I enjoy a good action movie and some of the scenes (although completely unrealistic) were fantastic!!! Afterward I went to pick D2 up from daycare and H headed home to prepare dinner.
He left at about 10:00 o'clock... after a it of chit chat.. He said that he'd like to be at the daycare meeting if he could work it out with his schedule.
I have noticed you and H spend so much time together considering you are not "together" right now....I imagine that is good and bad at times. For me anyway, I think I let expectations creep in when we spend a lot of time together.
Sorry about the concerns for D2. As an early childhood major, I feel it necessary to say that MOST 2 year olds don't know letters from numbers. And most find it hard to sit still and pay attention for more than a few minutes. I am sure she is a great little girl.
As a parent of 4 really bright kids, I'd like to say that knowing letters and numbers at two is an absurd goal, and is irrelevant to how well they will do later. Our 3rd was hardly even speaking at 3. I mean, he had a 5 word spoken vocabulary. He understood everyone, you could tell, and he could get his ideas across. Then he decided to talk, and hasn't stopped since. Now he is one of the top in his class, just finished 7th grade. Our youngest didn't know his letters when he was "supposed" to start kindergarten. We were homeschooling him, W would introduce the letters, and see what happened, but not push it. He took to it the spring before he started first grade, and went to "outschool". He was probably the top reader in his class, the teacher couldn't believe when she found out when he started. My point is that kids learn at different rates, and generally when they are ready to. And at two, that's not what most of them are ready for. Instead, we try to force it on them, and they end up hating school. Or, we can let them tell us when they are ready, and they can love school. Our youngest just finished 4th grade, and all of his teaches have loved him.
At two they should be playing, starting to learn to share, not worrying about letters and numbers!
I have noticed you and H spend so much time together considering you are not "together" right now....
<<W2G>> Very intriguing! There does not seem to be an OW! There's also a condo in the works! He's not one of them crazy WAW's! You are so level-headed and kind hearted! So what's going on, eh? Even Sherlock Holmes would be stumped! Does the Canadian health care system cover crazy people like your H? Have you asked H what his game plan is?
My main concern about her is that she doesn't listen. It is something I've been working on with her for months.. and I know it's a problem at daycare too
..its not her ears is it? This happened to my friends daughter, she wouldnt listen, always runing around, wouldnt sit still or sit and learn things...turns out she was nearly deaf! It was a few years before they pushed for tests and by then she had missed alot of vocab. Her ears were all bunged up, so they fitted gromits and shes ok now, but still playing catchup. It was like she was in her own little world, but her nursery said she wouldnt pay attention...its cos she haerd a lot of muffles!
Yeah, ask for his birth time. Your H is a curious case!! Ali x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Thank you for your lovely and heartwarming post on my thread the other day!
Don't worry that much about D2 not listening, let her take her time! When she's interested in letters and numbers and what one can do with them she'll listen :)!
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I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
I haven't posted to you before but wanted to drop in and say hi. I shall have a look back through your past threads but it sounds positive that your h talks about the future...
We had concerns for our daughter's language development. As a baby she'd had tons of ear infections, following by having tubes in her ears at six months. In Connecticut they have a Birth to Three program where therapists come out and evaluate your child. Before kids are three, what is the norm covers a broad swath.
Listen to the daycare... talk to your pediatrician, call in professionals as needed.
When my daughter was old enough to take a quantitative hearing test (around age 6) we discovered she'd been more or less deaf for the first year and a half of her life from the ear infections. Her dream is to be a Broadway actress, her speech is articulate as is her singing.
Hi W2G...welcome over. You're thread locked on a cute note don't you think
I don't know what some schools and/or teachers expect from kids. Our D wasn't speaking much at all at the age of 2 and now I can't get her to srop talking! All kids develop at their own pace and what is normal for one kid might not be for another. I can't see what the problem is if she's happy and healthy at 2. Take a look at the developmental guideline for the ages on the internet.
As for the H. I also love to spend time with mine. You and I have so much in common as you know and I'd not trade time with him for anything.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
