There is nothing you could say to make this better. Actions are going to be more effective.
"where you asked can you see his thought processes here? Are you thinking wounded ego, self esteem?? or because we keep going thru this vicious cycle?? And he's waiting for me to pick the pieces up, he picks me when i fall, i pick him up when he falls...it's my turn to pick him up??"
For him yes.. you are picking up the pieces. For you.. we are starting over. That is what makes this hard.
Lets do this.. when you wake up tomorrow.. text him.. Good morning. Don't respond.
What time zone are you..
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.