Puppy!! At last I have found you. Listen, there is a man that needs another's man's advice on how to set boundries. He is in Newcomers Forum and is called Losing Sunshine. He had two threads going but finally got down to one and it is "Wife is Considerifng Filing". It looked like things were looking up when he started pulling away from her and applying DB, and she was kind of moving toward him, even though she considers them separated living under the same roof (her sleeping in downstairs). However, she has some "new" female friends that, I think, may be a bad influence on her and now she is apparently planning to pull something this weekend. She was wanting him to put the house on the market and he said "no". I told him that I thought he needed to stay home this weekend b/c she seem to be trying to get him out of the house while the new friends came over. Then she mentioned about pulling some things to put into storage. I smell a rat...b/c I think she will try to wipe him out of everything in the house if he doesn't stay there to make sure she doesn't. Anyway, I think he is beginning to see that also. Maybe she was just setting him up for the kill instead of warming up to him. So, he approached her about it....and it turned into a fight. He stood up to her and told her that he was did not want to sell the house and that he was thinking of buying her part out and keeping the house for him and the kids. I think that shocked her! But, now that he has sort of called her bluff and she is bringing these new friends over, he wants to know how to draw boundries in their stitch. I instantly thought of you b/c I think you are the best at that sort of thing. I kind of get lost b/c I don't know what a man would do if he told his w not to do something and she did it anyway. I know she needs to suffer the consequences and figuring out just what that would be, is the trick.

Anway, would you mind dropping by and taking a look and maybe helping him. He has come to a spot in the road that he really needs direction ASAP. I hope you get this tonight in time to respond to him. I know it is a busy time for families.

Thanks, I appreciate it.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!