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Doc,

I need to clarify.. my sarcastic suggestion was not for him to call OM.. it was to call her cell in the waiting room. Jsyk..

How is the lawn ?

These WAW's make us all a bit nuts.. and we forget who the h3ll we are.. Come on.. get off the train, Roger ! You know YOU !

I just want to say.. Her actions are meaningless at this point.. Yours are very important.. not toward her.. but toward you and the family !

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Interesting though. Listen to others here and exposure is key. So while contacting OM may not be recommended, OMW might be a thought?


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Originally Posted By: lost_in_space
Interesting though. Listen to others here and exposure is key. So while contacting OM may not be recommended, OMW might be a thought?


Contacting YOURSELF is highly recommended ! All others are not a good idea,eh ?

If you think talking with your WAW about the OM is fun. Just wait until you call OM up.. been there done that btw.. Pretty much all the same. They dont practice their answers though.. although it sounds like it ?

Calling OM's wife will only make her angrier at her sitch with OM.. thus causing her to not like OM more and therefore send him to your stbxw if you get my drift ?

Call yourself and be sure to answer the phone !

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My mind raced only while she was on the phone. VROOOMMM!
Over it as quickly as it began. Love being with my girlies anyway. I'm used to it by now. Roomie went through a phase a year and a half ago. ALWAYS went out. Mayby till 3am sometimes. Always waited up for her. Hardly does it anymore. Hardly. I told her once, what she thought the girls were going to think about their mother always going out.

Last time it happened was sometime in May. I went out on Friday and got home at 3am. Had a blast. Went out with "B" and some mutual friends for her b-day. I wasn't WITH her. She invited me. Next night, roomie decides to go out and stayed out till 3:30am. When she got home, I was outside having a smoke. She asked me "What are you doing?" I said "Waiting for you to get home." She asked why. I said, "Because I always wait for you." She just had this GUILTY look as she looked at me. Sort of pissed too.

I recently found out she rented a hotel that night. Second time. Both times, she paid.

What a stupe! MFer couldn't even pay.

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Testing of calling the OFM will only drive a nail in your marriage.


Doc, are you calling what I think you are calling him?


I called him maybe last October. Many times. Never answered. Roomie would get on my case. Then he says he started getting calls from a girl, when roomie was in rehab. "Quit visiting her. Leave her the F alone"

Then he started getting emails saying the same.

So he says. I never found out who it was. I didn't know his email address at the time.

I told roomie either he is a lying sack of sh** or someone SHE knows is doing it.

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Originally Posted By: attorneytom
Originally Posted By: lost_in_space
Interesting though. Listen to others here and exposure is key. So while contacting OM may not be recommended, OMW might be a thought?


Contacting YOURSELF is highly recommended ! All others are not a good idea,eh ?

If you think talking with your WAW about the OM is fun. Just wait until you call OM up.. been there done that btw.. Pretty much all the same. They dont practice their answers though.. although it sounds like it ?

Calling OM's wife will only make her angrier at her sitch with OM.. thus causing her to not like OM more and therefore send him to your stbxw if you get my drift ?

Call yourself and be sure to answer the phone !

AT


I understand, Tom(grrr).

We should always take the high road and worry about ourselves. We are the only ones we can control.

I might be calling myself in about a month. Actually, I hope it has to go to voicemail because I'll be out having too much fun.


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Originally Posted By: lost_in_space
Interesting though. Listen to others here and exposure is key. So while contacting OM may not be recommended, OMW might be a thought?


Hey Lis, exposure is in the minority here on this board, I think.

BUT, I have seen good things in Puppy and maybe Hope4us's sitch. VERY anti-DB, though. I have done some, but didn't seem to help my sitch. I think others would say the same.


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In my case the OW's H contacted me and we talked periodically. We more or less cried on each other's shoulder. It got where he called me way more than I cared for him to. I got where I would ignore his calls because it was always upsetting to me.

Well, he decided to share with his W that my H was playing us both. Guess what the OW goes and complains to my H who in turn got mad at me! He said we were co-conspiring! The only reason I told the OW's H that I was seeing H was to try to get him to stop calling me! Ironic thing is that my H said the that OW's H was manipulating me. He called the OW's H "a snake in the grass". To which I replied "And you don't think the OW is manipulating you"! I think there were snakes in the grass, but I'm not sure it was the OW's H!

I know that you don't plan on calling the OM, but I just had to share my story! Crazy, huh?




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It's like their brains are nothing but mush. Like they all have had a lobotomy. It's amazing the things they will say.


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Originally Posted By: hopeful4her
It's like their brains are nothing but mush. Like they all have had a lobotomy. It's amazing the things they will say.


Isn't that the truth? I bet we all could write a book and call it "The ridiculous things WAS say and do!" I think they are all go through a MLC aka "Making Life Crazy".




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A couple weekends ago, the day after we got back from Laredo, roomie tells me, "What if it wasn't Tom. Would it matter if it wasn't him?"

Like I was going to tell her, "Yeah, it IS Tom. Go ahead and F anyone but HIM!"

I looked at her like bugs just crawled out of her ears. I was amazed.

I said, "It wouldn't matter WHO the hell it was, we are married and what you are doing is WRONG."

What a stupe.

Last edited by hopeful4her; 07/04/08 02:57 AM.

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Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08

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