"hey Brian thanks! I wish I could say it is happy but today I am an emotional wreck. Been crying off and on all day and even left work early. I don't know why maybe its the stress of everything and getting older...much older it feels like! I had a major backslide when I met the wife today, I told her to have fun in Cali, and she held my hand and told me she is just going to get away with friends and that is it. I started crying for no reason and left with my S."
You're welcome ! Hey man take a breathe, okay you backslide it happens triggers can do that to ya. You now see what can happen when your head isn't 100% on. Birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, etc. next time you will know better. I don't think you did much damage only time will tell at this point just get up, brush the dirt off and get back to doing work.
"As for last night, it was great. Felt like old times! We were laughing having a good conversation and avoiding all R talks. She brought it up once but I bobbed and weaved to avoid it, even though she brought it up I wasn't ready to talk about it and she was in agreement. We had a great meal at a steakhouse and enjoyed a beer. When we left I walked her to the door and said thanks for the good evening, she gave me a hug and smiled. Nothing spectacular but it felt good."
Good for you, see when your head is 100% and you are prepared things go much easier. You did great bobbin & weavin out of the R talk, she even agreed with that, good communication going on with that. You were the men she fell in love with she even gave you hug on her own accord awesome for you bro! Oh it was spectacular you made good strides in this IMO.
"My MIL called yesterday to wish me a happy b-day and we talked for a while. We both had a good cry as we talked about my sitch, and she said she hopes all works out and said I would always be a part of the family no matter what, that made me feel good."
That's cool you have that type of relationship with MIL, I can relate I love my MIL more than my own mom she is awesome. I will say one thing here, BE CAREFUL remember blood is thicker than water no matter how things are W is her daughter, be cautious in what you say please it could easily backfire on you, with that said MIL could still be a force in your favor, but don't put ideas in her head okay?
"I just wish today felt that good. But I am going to take a shower and gather my thoughts so I can take the kids to dinner."
Exactly, take a step back and regroup enjoy the kids & even take the time to enjoy W being gone this will help your stress level just don't think about her gone, think ah I have a break from all of this If W calls be the man you are, don't push anything, let her do the talking and volunteering. Wish her a good time tell her about the kids don't pry into what she is doing ya hear me?
You can do this, you ARE doing great just regroup, we all backslide the point is to be ready next time.
You enjoy your 4th make those kids smile with some fireworks!
! Hey man take a breathe, okay you backslide it happens triggers can do that to ya. You now see what can happen when your head isn't 100% on. Birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, etc. next time you will know better. I don't think you did much damage only time will tell at this point just get up, brush the dirt off and get back to doing work.
If W calls be the man you are, don't push anything, let her do the talking and volunteering. Wish her a good time tell her about the kids don't pry into what she is doing ya hear me? 