I was pretty dizzy myself btw.. no worries there, okay ?
Now.. looking in the mirror .. that is an interesting thingy. Just remember the guy looking back is the same guy you started this trip with but he has learned alot about himself, his sitch, relationships, marriage, children, life, and the world.
But I truly believe that I can look at myself a year from now and know that I tried. I made a ton of mistakes along the way, but I really tried.
You are no Fool guy. Every encounter is an opportunity to learn something. I think you did fine. I know it does seem weird when you are talking to your WIFE and she acts like what she does is none of your business. Been there done that. I think the only difference I would have done was ask....’ Who keeps calling? It's a legitimate question. If I was with a buddy and we were doing something and his phone keep going off I would ask him. Not sure what to think about her "Moving" There is a really Fine line between detaching and keeping interest. I mean detachment could come off to her as you don't care any more. I think I have the opposite problem with my Wife. I am such a weak guy I think she thinks I would never leave. I think Retro will be an eye opener if she goes. Well got ta go cut the grass be back later...
Doc.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Doc, I like that.. alot.. " Who keeps Calling ?".. jeez ! What might have been fun would be to excuse myself and use the mens room.. and call too !? Just a thought ?
Yes.. on the thingy.. cheer up buddy ! YOU will be okay whatever the result. Surround yourself with good people and friends as this thingy happens. Another life experience for you and one of many.. positive and negative.
I have considered sending both of them a text. Something like, "Both of you dumba**'s deserve each other."
I almost asked her, "So do you have Cricket or Pocket?" Wait for the what does it matter question. "They are the phone preference of ALL cheaters."
You are not the first or the last one on the DBB to think about this btw.. Dont.. Concentrate on YOU and the kids now.. those are the things you can control and work on... Do that and next year all will be okay !... or atleast better.
Oh.. and remember that her illness is hers.. not yours ! Get off the "Fixer" thing, okay ? You cant do it.
I'm too good of a person to do something so childish. I'm better than that.
It's nice THINKING of stuff like that, though.
Will work on me, more. I have promised myself and my God that I will be there for her in this illness. Non-negotiable for me, I'm afraid. I am not her.
I'm confident that she'll see the light some day. I know it is not over. Question will be, will I still want her. Everyday, she chokes off a little more of my love for her. My God is a God of hope. So I have hope. For her and for us.
BTW, roomie called about 30 minutes ago. I've been timing her. I know she worked late. She went in late. Should have been home close to 7:15 to 7:30. She calls at 7:36. She had picked up nephew from work and taken him to Golds gym and co-signed him for a membership. She was trying to talk to me. I gave one word answers. Playing it cool, not mean. She gets a call. Comes back and tells me it was a co-worker I have met. Long pause. I'm sure she was waiting for me to ask something or question why she was calling her. She finally comes out and says that they are going out for a drink. I say ok. Long pause again. She wants to talk to D11.
I give phone to D11. "What?!" "Awww, mom." "Ok" "I will." "Aww man." "Whyyy?" "Alright" "Love you too." "Ok"
She told her she was going out with a friend from work. She will be home soon. Not staying out late. Be home sooner than you think.
How can the mind not race? I know her pauses were her waiting to test me. Sarcastic remark. She got none. Just a simple, quick ok.
She wouldn't be THAT ballsy. Not after today.
I believe her.
When she comes home, won't say anything.
Maybe, "Glad your home safe."
Gonna go make some cookies with my D's.
Last edited by hopeful4her; 07/04/0801:20 AM.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Make the cookies ! Who cares what she does at this point, eh ? Get on with YOU.
The only thing that a racing mind can do is slow YOU down ! As my friend Ian says.. it is out of your realm... deal with it.. and get along with you. There is no need to time the race btw.. or think ahead of it..
You are not the first or the last one on the DBB to think about this btw.. Dont.. Concentrate on YOU and the kids now
Yep... been there also... hopeful4her... Keep this as your ace. Dude.
Testing of calling the OFM will only drive a nail in your marriage.
I have wanted to do this for the last year. Even though he lives out of state I know where he works, what pizza parlor he goes to. Where he shops. Both his home and cell phone... I know all of this because the idiot was so cheap he would text my wife to call him back... BUT If I would have contacted him back in the beginning. It would make me look like the bad guy in my wife’s eyes. There is no way we would be going to retro IN 7 DAYS The way I look at am I can always text or call him. But once I do it is over. Even If My Wife and I do make it work I WILL give the MFAH a call just ta bug him. And if we don't work it out... LET THE GAMES BEGIAN. I will have so much fun dicken with him. Wonder what the employees at Papa Murphy’s will think after the naked picture of him with pink hair arrives in the mail when he pick up his next pizza..
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
