Short recap: From almost a year ago 1. H had affair for 4 months (he ended it with OW) 2. I DB, and did the NC for almost 6 months 3. 3 months ago started talking again about us and what went wrong, we had long conversations that were wonderful.....exchanging "I love yous" He has been going to counseling for depression (Finally) 4. During this time both of us not sure what was going to happen with us, but we were taking it slow nonetheless, and enjoying each other's company again. We both really missed each other during the NC. 5. 1 month ago I lashed out (old feelings about OW) at him in an argument due to an inconsiderate thing he did. He was really really hurt.... 6. Then Husband decides not ready to get back together after thinking he was to do so (but he never actually told me this) 7. Still in contact now, hang out 1-2x a week but H is "kinda dating somebody" while he decides? BTW, she is married, but separated right now, and has done this a few times with her H. My H is not sure he is ready for something serious right now with me.......
The confusing thing is: He still tells me he loves me, he cares about me, and he is extremely attracted to me (we were together last week, even). I hear this pretty much every week. We go to lunch together, have had a picnic together. We talk on the phone every few days. He tells me he misses me. I tell him the same.
What is going on? In some ways it seems like we're piecing, as we work towards a better relationship, including talking about us, but he is at a slower pace than I am.
Then I also wonder because he is "kinda" seeing somebody else, if he is using me as a backup?
Deep down I don't really believe he is using me, but then why is he seeing her?
