Man, so hard. The natural part of me leans towards what your C is saying ,but I'm not sure how DB it is? It's so so hard when you see no changes ,and you've been at this a lot longer than I have. You have to do what you feel ,and only you truly know your wife and situation the best. Just be sure you are ready for the answer. And if it is a "no" will you really be able to accept that? What are you hoping to truly accomplish? I know for me if I asked that and H said no, I'd still be in a place of DBing and wanting it. So it would be a "loaded" question for me. Make sure you can go into it for the right reasons if you decide to ask that.

Chris

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Me:39
H:39
D:8
D:4
M:9 (T 13)
Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08,
Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09
Still doing GREAT a year later!!!