Oh, the work you do at Retro is completely private. Group experience is just listening to the leaders tell their stories. then you answer questions in writing in your notebook and share it with your spouse, in private. Their is no group interaction. I never knew the stories of the people I went to Retro with, except for chit-chat over meals. There are also no professional therapists at Retro, it is just married couples who have experienced problems in their own lives explaining how they solved their problems. They show you step by step how to do it. But it is up to you to practice on your own in your room.
I think I'm back on track here. I don't know what kind of marriage conferences you went to where they told you what to do. But the point I was making, is that at Retro they don't tell you to do anything but use the dialogue technique to communicate. Any changes you decide to make are of your own suggestion. There is no third party making suggestions. I suppose you could go back on your own decisions, but it would be harder to do.
I think I'm back on track here. I don't know what kind of marriage conferences you went to where they told you what to do. But the point I was making, is that at Retro they don't tell you to do anything but use the dialogue technique to communicate. Any changes you decide to make are of your own suggestion. There is no third party making suggestions. I suppose you could go back on your own decisions, but it would be harder to do.
That sounds really good. Here's hoping that ms b's H and my W will be up for it at some point!
Good text ms b. Keep it up.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
