I understand what you are saying. Here is the basis for the idea...
A long time ago, probably a year and a half (maybe more), I was about ready to "call it a day". I said something about looking for a place to live. It was while W was in school, she said, more or less, that I couldn't do that then, she needed me to "support" her schooling (read, take care of the kids, and earn the money.) And she said, "I'm too busy to work on our M now."
So, the idea is to ask her at some point soon, whether she see ever wanting to work on the M (ever, not right then). My C liked the idea, as a way of giving me direction. Because without some sign of "hope", I can't go much longer. I'm not seeing any baby steps, nothing. So, I'm trying to rock the boat, without putting a huge amount of pressure on her.
