The road goes ever on...

[jon2911]

MIL is a nurse, so W called her also about the meds. She wouldn't want FIL to know about this, he's one of the sources of the "worry" comment. My C says that W's life has been about cultivating an image, and that's all breaking down now. I don't blame her for being embarrassed about her headaches.

What exactly does she mean that she doesn't want to hear about our m again? How did the r talks go? Did they end so poorly?

No, they went well. I was washing dishes after dinner, and she looked up at me and said "things would have been so great if we'd worked on our issues before getting married." I went and hugged her and said "I know". She asked how counseling is going, and I mentioned the CR recovery group is helping a lot as well.

That's what W doesn't want to hear about again. Specifically "your sexual issue" as she put it. I don't bring it up much on here, because most people don't think porn is wrong (don't want to start a debate about that). Really, control was the deeper issue for me. The 12 steps have been very helpful so far. And W can see that I'm changing, but won't buy it yet.

W is starting to realize she needs help. But I can't force her into counseling, CR, Retro, anything. I have to work on myself, until she wants to join me.

So I work on control, anger, porn and all of that at CR, and come here for the valuable woman advice on how to treat my W

Thank you all so much!