A question...since women are generally the planners of a family's social life, it seems strange to me that your W wants you to do all of that. Is there a reason? I'm only asking because I expect my H to make our plans too...and I'll confess, I get a little irritated when he doesn't have plans. Like it's his responsibility or something :P
I don't know about your W...but for me it's about me starting to see myself differently than before the bomb. Before the bomb I really wasn't that social due to social anxiety. And H was always the one making the plans, and I'd fight him about going because I was always so darn anxious. So, I'm less anxious about social things, but I found my anxiety climbing the other day when I asked a new friend of mine if she wanted to go meet for lunch...like I don't know, maybe she'd reject me or something?
I think it might be good for you to ponder the question of why your W leaves it to you to make plans...because there was the tiniest hint of resentment-ish in your comment about "is there no satisfying this woman?!" Or maybe not.
Sorry the vacay didn't work out so well, but I know you made the best of it. It's funny, H and I are split in the way we like to vacation, but we've both learned to compromise a little so we both get what we want. It's all good!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
