I told stbx before he left, how good it'd be for him to try and work on the M and that it wouldnt' be easy but worthwhile, he said he didnt' want to sacrifice himself, that being unhappy in the M was all that was going to happen with him staying. Selfish alright, they can't think of anyone other than themselves. They'll fool themselves for a while, and probably turn it and blame any future unhappiness on us, there might not be a moment when they truly understand what they've done, mostly they'll just keep believing the other spouse is at fault for their current situation. What a pathetic way to live that will be.
Very true........... I think my friend Teresa said it well... I will have to deal with the intense pain for a while..... My exH will have to deal with the regret for many years...... His lot is far worse than mine.....
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
