Looking for support from other WAS's

[Flipper]

What is most likely to happen now if you don't put a lid on the D process and get rid of OM very quickly is that your H will be compelled to hire an L to defend him and then ANY hope of saving things goes down to zero.

Fb2,

I agree with you that filing D hinders things greatly, but it doesn't whittle the odds down to zero. My W has filed and, yes, it throws a big wrench into things BUT it's only paper. Honestly, we see people get re-married (to each other) all the time. I just had lunch with a guy who is now dating his ex. Stats say that a whopping 14% of divorced couples re-marry each other(that's from two different sources). That's a lot of couples. But do I think some spouses should rescind their D papers? Yep. I firmly believe that anyone can really change...with time and patience, so why rush things, IMO.

Hey Lost and Christa! Saw the W yesterday. I told her:

"No one has ever fought for you. I get people telling me to go get women, to move on...I am not THERE. I will NOT turn my back on you. I don't care what you say. People think I'm crazy. I DON'T care what they think. I am your best friend! I am your (name)! It is in my heart. I couldn't turn my back on you if I wanted to!"

Man it felt good!! I got so tired of being "supportive". She and I teared up. We hugged and she held-on tight for a change. We didn't say much after that, but she sure looked glad and happy afterward. Whew! I blew her a kiss when I drove away and she waved happily. She might bungee on me later, but maybe not.

I don't think she is lifting the D, but she sure is thinking now...I hope.