Yay Cinco...you're a keeper...for which I am sure your wife is glad. :0)
Buy the Guide...it will be a great little diversion for you and your wife both. Because it is a guide/manual, it won't be threatening to her. Plus it is full of very tasteful beautiful but erotic illustrations. Similar to the Joy of Sex but much better and way updated. I doubt she will be offended if you pick it up one day and sneak it into the bedroom for later when the kid are asleep and then say "honey...I found this at the bookstore and it just seems so full of information I had to buy it. I'm going to flip through it more later but for now, would you look through some of these beautiful pictures with me?"