I am dealing with a live-in WAW that is driving the train full speed to D. I am curious as you have a young D as do I. Have your read any books dealing with kids and D? If so, could you recommened one?
My 4D is beginning to ask questions and last night was present when WAW exploded on me. Not to mention that I also have a 2S to have to be strong for as well.
TIA,
LS
Me 34 W 33 D 4 S 2 M 5 T 8 Bomb 6/17/08 Served 7/17/08 I hate Tuesdays! Current Thread
I think you might be right. I did tell her last night that I am not dating anyone. But I don't tell her where I was. I know its more about me than Abby though.
LS,
My D is doing fine. My C specializes in children so most of my weekly time deals with Abby. So I don't have any books I could advise. Although last night, W called and said that Abby wanted to come home and she didn't want to sleep there. I tried to help but D was crying. W had the nerve to tell my I was "happy that this was happening". I said calmly, "how could you say that? Its all about Abby and I want her to be happy."
The nerve of this woman sometimes.
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
Thx. I saw some books at B&N and was just wondering. W and I are still early in our sitch (week 3 now) and I fear for my kids what may lie ahead. My GAL is keeping me focused on my kids and on my own things. It's all about them.
LS
Me 34 W 33 D 4 S 2 M 5 T 8 Bomb 6/17/08 Served 7/17/08 I hate Tuesdays! Current Thread
So W did it again. She was supposed to sign up D for the after-school program (D starts kindergarden in Aug) but never did. I tried to call but everyone is closed for the summer. She said she forgot. This woman is killing me. This was back in April and she said she had done it. Guess she was too busy with OM to take care of her Ds needs. Guess I'll figure something out.
This was once one of the more reliable people I know. Now its the complete opposite. Ugh!!!!
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
Hang in there AD, they tend to get lost in their own little world, and their priorities sometimes get mixed up! This is your time to shine and be the reliable one now. Make your D proud that you can get this stuff done!!
I picked up Abby at W's tonight. God W looked good tonight it was hard not staring. First time in a while I've thought that way.
She walked us out because I needed her car seat. As I was driving off she gave me an uncomfortable smile and I gave one back. Made me kind of sad because of how our R is. Can't even smile at each other anymore. I remember one of our first dates at the beach. We just stared at each other all night and the waitress wrote on our receipt "you guys are great together". Now we can't even smile at one another. Pretty sad.
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
It is very hard AD but you can not think of it like that anymore. You have to look at it like how much better it will be when you get back together. That is how I like to look at it now. Me and my W used to always give each other a kiss and a nice pat on the butt, but now it is hard for the wife to even give me a hug let alone touch me!
Well the 4th was rather interesting. W and I had a good talk on the phone on the 3rd. Just chit chat talk but she was telling me about her work, friends etc. I mostly listened but it was nice to talk as friends. She said she wanted us to take Abby to the city parade I said okay.
Abby was very excited about the parade....I texted W early on the 4th because the parade started at 10. She said okay, she'd be there and could she do some laundry...i was like sure. She came over and we hung out for a while. Abby was doing her thing and we talked a little bit.
Parade was cool and crazy. There was at least 100,000 people wandering the streets. We watched a bit then grabbed lunch. We saw a couple at the restaurant who's kid W watched when she ran daycare....small world. When we were walking back W asked "Who's such and such?" I said "huh"?
I played dumb. But this is female friend I've been talking to for the last month or so. Someone who got divorced a couple years ago and helps me understand things. I was totally shocked how W could know. Later I figured since she gets the cell phone bills she must have done research. Actually it turns out that last week she went through my phone and saw the calls. Ironic, now she's spying on my phone. Ha.
Anyway, after we got back I let her hang and watch "weeds", a show we used to watch. I watched the last one with her since it was new. I think we both enjoyed watching it. It finally seems that she wants to talk and hang out with me, although she doesn't say it. Like I've said many times, she doesn't say much. I always have to ask questions. Earlier I asked her about her friend (the bad influence) and she said they haven't spoke in a couple weeks, chaos in her friends life. Guess that's someone she can't rely on.
Anyway, Abby and I walked W to her car later....Abby wanted her to stay but W had to get ready and party (well going to a party). We said good bye and I really wanted to hug her....I think she wanted to also because we both paused for a couple seconds. I really don't want to make any "first" moves. Hug, kiss, even hanging out. I want her to do this. Is this the right approach here?
Also, this spying thing. She even joked about how I go out more than she now. Sounded like she thought it was cool that I do this now. Then she is spying or investigating things. First I thought it was to justify her R, but now I don't know.
Any thoughts would be great. A lot of small things seem to have shifted.
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
When I go a week with little contact it doesn't bother me that much. I know its out of sight, out of mind, but its more than that. Its like I can face the future without her.
Then this weekend, I see her most of the day Friday and Saturday. We talked, she even called me to see if we could do something with Abby together. By the end of Saturday afternoon I realized how much I miss her. Last night was tough on me and I'm depressed today, more than I have been in a month. I guess it doesn't help that my "female friend" disappeared and a buddy of mine is pissed at something stupid I did. Now W isn't responding to my text about D and it starts me wondering what the hell is going on. She works in 45mins and has to be awake.
I hate all these feelings coming back so maybe for my own sake I should just go dark and stay dark until I don't care about her anymore. I hate this!
M 35 W 28 D 4
Bomb 4/28/08 Found out about PA 05/14/08 Separated 5/25/08 (not legally)
