Until Feb 5th I was never insecure about anything in my life.
I think as far as things you have to work on, I'd say this was one of them. Granted, your wife hasn't earned your trust, but I really do sense insecurity in you..kind of like you're waiting for the other shoe to drop and somewhat walking on eggshells to avoid it. I'm not saying be the grunting caveman, but as far as I'm concerned, you've got reasons to strut your stuff and be confident in yourself. The times that are hardest for me in my relationship is when I feel insecure. It's during those times that I look at my wife as though it's somehow her fault...like she's making me feel that way. And it's not true...I own those feelings, the insecurities are mine, and I can't look to her to deal with them. What I'm trying to say is be confident that you are a good guy, be secure that you'll be okay, and try not to focus so much on whether your wife is carrying her end of this. It's when I don't worry what my wife is not doing for me or taking the pulse of the relationship that things go most smoothly. Obviously, if she crosses a major boundary, either in the marriage or with the kids, you'll have to address it immediately and decisively.
Just my thoughts. Hope they made sense. Wishing you a happy 4th of July, and good luck.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
