You said the time is not right to ML with W and you maybe a long way off that, that may be the case, but maybe ML is something W wants and wants from you. I mean if she's discussing your sex life with someone, it could be that she wants one.
I think your wife also wants you to make a fuss over her and make her feel special (romance her). I think you've generated some momentum here grasp the moment keep it going.
