Checking in while there's a break on the Western Front.
H came over swinging last night before he took S5 to dinner. S16 was supposed to go with them & changed his mind, going out with a friend instead.
When H found out S16 wasn't going, he launched(loudly) into the importance of honoring commitments, not saying you're going to do something & changing your mind when something better comes along, etc.?????
This lead into me responding on how he's quite the roll model for teaching that.
What he's doing is "completely different", he didn't really start his A until 2 wks before he left ????
Blah, Blah, Blah.......The reason he started the A was b/c I treated him like cr@p for 4 years (down from 8yrs a while back).
I did leave the hot pink marina parking slip hanging in my car for him to admire, when he arrived. Of course, since he says he doesn't care what I do & has a GF, it's expressed in other ways.
When I didn't back down on allowing him to spend the 4th with all of us, out came "The Offer". I laughed & asked if he had been driving around with those in his car.
"No, you want to know when I put them in the car.....when I got those e-mails."
I held my ground (nicely), with him saying if I change my mind, I can call him.
I call CVA & tell him it looks like I'm really getting a D. He says, "So you got a some paper with some numbers on it, big deal, I know this guy, I was once him, I don't think he wants a D."
This morning I get this;
Sunny,
I thought about how we are ramping up. I don't like it and I don't think you do. Whenever you use S5 and take something away in my seeing him that I think you had already agreed to I throw back. All I want is to be with him during the 4th Fireworks. So, I will show up just before dark and we will walk him out to the cliffs like we have for the last three years. Then after the FW's I will leave. I won't bother your guests. So, that is what I am going to do, If you agree then I'll take the envelope back.
I'll be over (today) as soon as I get back from (sail planing).
Sincerely,
I think it's very important to keep showing that I'm not going to participate as the 3rd leg of the table, & do it calmly, w/out being sucked into the drama.
