Happy day before the 4th! I am not sure if you have been following my sitch but the past few days have been anything but unpleasant as the W is wanting to put the house for sale.
In anycase, I had a quick question. I am doing LRT and seeing some progress with her asking me questions etc...and even said that I looked good this morning and that she noticed that I was losing weight. But what I was wondering, after reading the first few chapters of the 5 Love Languages and paging through the rest (will read the rest tonight), should I start using words of affirmation (what I believe is one of her languages, along with acts of service - my 180s are helping me somewhat here) when we do talk or are in the same room (you like nice in the outfit, etc...)? Are WAWs somewhat open to having their emotional love tank filled or does the numbness prohibit that?
Any thoughts?
Thanks!
LS
Hey LS, I've been trying to follow as many threads as I can, but if you have a specific question, jump on here, just like you did okay. Didn't you decide you were going to let her call the Realtor if that's what she wanted ?
In my case, it helped. I didn't act like it helped, & he had to do a ton of it before I started to even respond favorably. But, I think it's always a good idea to provide love supplies to another human being. Especially one that is angry, because an angry person is a suffering person. When I was numb, I'm sure H thought it wasn't even impacting me, & I didn't even acknowledge a lot of it, but in the long run, I appreciated it, & I've since told him.
Happy 4th to you too.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
