Cookie... you're not going to jinx it...you both have too much knowledge!
and by the way....sometimes it's ok to have a huge fight. things that are worth having are worth fighting for! if that makes sense..LOL...
neil, I'm working with C to re-program my inner tape recordings. In my mind & childhood, when people fight, they divorce & I never see them again. So a fight triggers my abandonment issues. Then, since my biggest fear is being left, I withdraw all emotions & that way "I get them before they get me". But, I'm changing all that now that I'm aware of it. The brain is really an amazing thing.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
