I am glad you guys understand where I am at now...the posts are archived which is good because really after a while the advice one gives is pretty much the same...so if new ones comes "searching" they might find me...
I really just needed to redirect my focus...I felt like I was sitting in the past when I would share my story again and again...I realize it helped others so it was worth if for me to give back as I did take away from here too...
But now, with my marriage on solid ground, my H doing the right things for our family and taking the lead as he should I really need to start putting my time and effort into looking forward with him...not looking over my shoulder at what he did...
It sad to see all the marriages in distress but if I can leave one bit of advice it is to educate yourself on all of your options, excercise your power, be patient and empathetic...and give yourself and your spouse time...lots of time...during which you work on becoming the person you want to be!...I am definetly not the same woman I was 4 years ago...not because of what my H did so much as what I did for myself!
So now I will maintain GAL...this has been the best thing since our reconciling...we also make time for US...for family time...things are just so much more balanced then before...and this brings joy to us both...
So for all who read this...I wish you the best...you will get stronger...you will make it...and hopefully more of you will save your marriages...like I managed!
