Hey puppy - what is the worse case scenario. We D and I get the house and kids, and
A) life goes on B) W wants to reconcile - marriage license doesn't cost that much
But as I stated before (B) is a long shot,W would have to do so much that I believe is beyond her capabilities. By striking now, I get to protect myself and the kids, secure the house, get W off my insurance. Her dad will help her financially if needed
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
H4H I bet once you start pushing W for the L info, she is going to back away from what she was telling you.
She isn't and will not, She talked to her L yesterday, I'm giving her a check (payable to lawyer) to get the ball rolling. I wrote down what we both agreed to and I'm going to give that to W and tell her - that she and her L better not put anything in the D agreement that we haven't discussed, without first talking to me.
I have read a lot of stuff lawyers have written, from trust agreements, wills, tax opinions, merger agreements, IRS rules, etc. The D agreement should be very simple and if there is the hint of anything out of the ordinary, I'm going to get my own L involved.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Just numb. Not angry. Not really sad. Just a sense of, "Ok, get your sh** together, take the next step like you keep saying and lets get on with our lives. If you want the OM so much, then just walk the F away and leave me be."
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
I think NUMB is a common "feeling" for us here. BUT, is that maybe something that we need to take into account before proceeding down a life altering path? MAYBE we need to actually feel something before acting? I am not being flippant, just wondering if we shouldn't perhaps feel a strong conviction for our chosen path and then act?
There will likely always be hesitation, but at least we would be acting from a stronger base - a positive / actual feeling - as opposed to what could be seen as the inability to feel (which is how some may describe "numb")?
Sorry, no answers, just questions. Just want to ensure we all make decisions at the "right" time - which is left up to us each individually.
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Hey H4H, exactly the way I feel, if that is what W wants ok, do what you want and let me move on with my life
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lost_in_space: BUT, is that maybe something that we need to take into account before proceeding down a life altering path? MAYBE we need to actually feel something before acting?
W already made the life altering decision, (ADULTERY) and it knocked me down, felt angry (still do sometimes - see prior post) but I need to get up and move on with my life.
M45 W41 M10 3/4 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
