i got my copy of DR today.. and in chapter 1 : family/friend influence..i know there is ALOT.. but my W is strong and will hopefully make up her own mind.. i think it's alot about saving face for her now that she sees i've changed..(i know it has to be long term).. but now that she has made a drama out of it..
make sense?
Yes, makes a lot of sense. I'm in the same situation. Hopefully our wives are strong enough. It took a lot of strength to leave and get our attention in the first place, though we may not like it.
Yep agree 100% ... my W , like yours from what i read, is noticing all the changes, mine lives with me and gets to see me everyday, so hasn't really felt the brunt of being "seperate" yet, other than me doing everything on my own. It did take a lot of strength for her to make this decision, but now that she keeps telling everybody, i can;t see how she would change her mind, even if she wants to, it maybe all about "saving face" for her now.. i don't know i can't read minds.. (i wish i could sometimes)
I also just found out that my work does NOT cover her gym membership... so it's going on my visa. Wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to ask her what she wants to do... really i shouldn't have to pay for her at this time, if we got back together fine, but right now we are apart..
i started with " I thought we were both covered under my wellness plan but..." and don't know how to put it
