You've written so much about your W and what she's doing....
Focus on YOU.
What are your current goals for you? Action steps?
Stop trying to figure out what W is doing or why. Unless she tells you, it is just a story you are creating that may or may not be true.
Focus on YOU.
I'm sorry...here is a 2x4 but it's kindly meant...your posts here are coming off as if you are arrogant--W is messed up, you are not, and so you have to fix her like she's some sort of child. If I'm feeling that, I wonder if your W is feeling that too.
Now, this may not be how you feel, but it's how your posts come off.
So, take your eyes off of W and focus on YOU. What is Scott doing to improve himself? PMA, GAL, 180s? What are your goals for you?
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!