Also the desire not to be "talked about" or "judged" -- the hope that their actions will not have ramifications or are indicators of their character to the people around them. Mind boggler.
Another perspective, repectfully put forth...
maybe they are hoping that the real friends will come to them and find out why they (WAS) are taking the actions they are taking.
Maybe the WAS are trying to take the high road by not trash talkig about the LBS to friends who don't want to be put in the middle of a couple's marital discord.
When all others can SEE is the WAS actions and HEAR is the LBS side, there is judgement passed by many without taking the time to SEE the LBS actions for years and HEAR the WAS side of it.
That may not be true in every case, but I bet it is in some.
Sorry to hi-jack the thread Lodo.
Hope your week-end of hiking is good. I'm jealous. I'm dog-sitting Saturday/Sunday for a friend. That makes 1 lab and 2 lab shepard mixes in this little house. Pay-backs are well...paybacks Later!
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
