I moved out to give him space

[Dom R]

Hi again Dom

I say I am clingy because that is what my husband has told me a thousand times. (more snipped...)

ah... guess that IS an issue for yiou then

I really never see him and soon he will be moving to a new city (half an hour away) and I have not called him because I was trying to "go dark."

so, stop trying to go dark.
(although that doesnt mean start calling him every night either )

Another though about this disrespect issue. . .how does one learn to be respectful? Especially when there is not a lot of good reason to be?

I dont know.

However, there's a book/seminar/whatever, called "love and respect" or something like that. Where the premise is that women want love, and men want respect. So they try to teach men to "love their wives, even when they are being unlovable", and women to "respect their husbands, even when they may not 'deserve' it".

So... that might be helpful to you.