Separated 5 years.

[Rusty]

Then if you are uncomfortable you need to make a move.
I have never seen the show - what is it about? Someone mentioned that show to me recently - I had never heard of it.
I think Tink may be right - you may want to, at the very least, go get a legal separation to start the process and get him thinking. My H and I are not legally separated, which can be a problem I guess, but so far it has been okay. I think the problems come in with credit reports, etc.
Maybe take some time this long weekend and make a plan for the next few years and where you want to be and how you want to be living. Assume you will be getting a D and work from there. That is what I am trying = you know "Independence Day".....