Yes, I think he has a problem with porn and has for a long time. We have discussed it extensively in the past- not since the reconciliation though, so I am treading lightly here. Sometimes I wonder why this bothers me so much, but it does. I agree that this is a good topic for our next session, but I don't have one scheduled yet (C is off this week and we're on vacation next week).
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Keep reminding yourself that your H is using this as another form of self-medication. It is a way for him to continue avoiding. Do you know why he has a fear of real physical and emotional intimacy?
I never really thought of it as self-medication, but I guess you're right. I suspect that this relates to issues stemming from his family history. The C has started to explore it a bit with us.
So, here's how I handled it last night: I didn't say anything and I didn't leave it up on the computer either. Instead, I tried to put it out of my mind and act as-if when he got home. And.. we spent a little special time together in bed.
