I guess it was kind of a relief that someone close to both of us asked and really listened to me. And expressed incomprehension at W's choices! The advisor also said what everyone else has been saying - W is too selfish and is confused and unrealistic. That will fade and she'll probably learn the hard way what it's like to start dating again and to be with someone who you aren't necessarily compatible with, or who is uncommunicative, or unwilling to go outside their comfort zone and work on things.
Anyway.
The smoke isn't too bad - the sea breezes are keeping the air clear around here. Down in Big Sur they're having problems.
