why dont you write her a letter??? Or even just start writing her little notes? They can be practical, but leave it for her when you are out of the house...something about thanking her for something, or how you enjoyed dinner with her and the boys last night...or just something, a little connection, but maybe talking to you is really hard for her, and maybe a letter or note could be a start???
Hi Jeff, You are lucky to have so many good friends here. I agree that writing her short notes would be a good thing to try. Try it for a week or two, monitor the results, and if it's working, keep doing it. If not, try something different.