H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

[happycamper]

So we had our C appointment last night, and H was late from work so I had the first 30 mins alone. I told the C the whole story and that I was worried that a) I was putting my feelings about the As on hold for the sake of a smooth end to the R and b) I was concerned about what we told our parents as I didn't want their R with stbx to be completely trashed.

She said that she couldn't believe after all I've heard from stbx that my main concern was for our parents and to an extent, stbx. Over the years certain people had stood out to her for their incredible responses to difficult situations - and she felt I was one of them. I felt very validated.

Other than that we discussed how to tell our parents as little as possible. She said that anyone who knew me and knew I had a strong faith would know that I committed very strongly to our R (true) and that it would take something very big for me to agree to a D (also true). People would make their own minds up, whatever we said.