Spoke to W on the phone, I managed to keep things lighthearted and friendly, jokey even. She did start out by saying that it was all about me, me, me and I don't see her point of view. I said funny cos that's exactly how I see you, she kinda laughed at that, but I told her we make these assumptions about each other cos we don't talk and discuss things. So I said if there is a problem don't bottle it up say something. I said a few other things but then I had to stop myself cos I said to W that I feel as thought I was lecturing her. She said I was. Again I said this was because you don't talk when we're like this, you clam up. Anyway I said a few more lighthearted things and the conversation ended on a good note.
In the past in thes situations if W ignored me I would ignore her, then I'd escalated it by doing something like ducking out of our trip to see her friends out of town next week and so on and so on. But the I remembered something from Rob which went something like "If I respond differently to situations things will be different". I can't find the exact quote but this is the nearest to it. Quote=Rob
