My thread is on the newcomers board. The short version is: bomb hit 1 yr. ago. H unhappy, I thought marriage was great. I was controlling/judgemental he avoided conflict at all costs. We were seperated for 3 months (he left) then home for 3 months and then left 1 month ago for 2nd time. I am DB as best I can. I have changed for the better since last fall. He is looking for "happiness." He asked for a D when he left 1 month ago and is now doubting his decision at times.

My question: We have not ML since he left until a few days ago. He initiated, I jumped at the chance ( I use to reject his advances before the bomb hit). The next day I initiated and he said NO, he was not in the mood. He regreted that we ML the day before and said it makes him confused to ML. We talked and made up about something he was mad about and then he said maybe we could try again later in the week. Tonight (friday) we went out for my birthday and he initiated ML again. It was great but he of course left afterwards. He is staying with a male divorced friend. I do not believe he is having physical A. There was a possible EA but not sure. When he left he said maybe we could try again tomorrow. I said sure. He is going on a business trip for 1 week in a few days.

Should I continue to accept his advances? Will this bring him closer to me or will it make me his mistress? His love language is physical touch. What do you all think??? nik