It was a weird day and it is possible she is testing you.

Scott....it will NOT help you to say you are not going to take blame. Like it or not, no matter what her faults are, even if it were more than 50% her fault, it will not help you in the slightest to have this position. That position will help you get divorced and stay divorced.

What will help you....not engaging in that discussion.

Next time she asks for cash tell her there isn't any. Set a budget and stick to it, except for an emergency, and she will have lots of them.

Set an emergency budget as well. You keep it or give it to her... and tell her to manage it...but tell her this is how it is while you are separated....this is how you have to manage it. Be kind, gentle......do NOT engage with her about her problem over and over again. That will drive a wedge between you.

Don't engage in discussions about possible or even proven other men right now. Blow your steam off here.

DO NOT take advice about giving her ultimatums. You will lose.

Last edited by sgctxok; 07/03/08 03:31 AM.
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Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001