Neil, excuse the hijack but I would like to respond to twindad's goal setting. I have seen other men (and women) do the same thing. First, realize you cannot control your spouse......right? Now, look at all the goals you set:
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I would like my W to initiate a conversation where she asks how I am - I would like to have my W over for a movie with the kids - I would like to be invited to do something with the my W and kids - I would like my W to look at me and smile - I would like my W to feel comfortable enough that she calls me to talk about her daily problems
My question to you is how much of that do you have control in and how much is a "personal' goal for you? I understand what it is you are wanting, but you need to try to make goals that are broken down into smaller steps and things that you can do to improve yourself b/c you are the only one you have control over. You can work toward the "big picture" of these things you have mentioned, but I hope you will try to re-evaluate and reconstruct your goals.
It's okay b/c a lot of people have never tried nor do they know how to set these types of goals. Hope you take this in the way I mean it from my heart and not that I am interferring.
Best of luck, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
