Well just lost lengthy post so I'll try again. Baby steps continue to be made, started house renovations on the weekend (again) and W got immediately frustrated at the progress (only six more weeks to go Ha!) She was looking for a target (me) but I refused to take the bait and we ended up having a very constructive conversation which twenty months ago would have been a verbal brawl. She feels I'm to critical of her (I don't think I am) but I just listened and when she finished I apologized and told her that I actually "thought the world of her" which seemed to have caught her off guard. There's less and less finger pointing and a lot more support coming from both sides these days and that's great. I asked her if maybe it was a self esteem issue as opposed to me being critical and she appeared to ponder that. It's funny she's a beautifull, fit , smart, creative person on the outside but inside there are some demons at work. J she made no comment I've made comments in the past regarding the one sideness of our R and she acknowledged that saying I was the taker for years (and I probably was)and now it's her turn. She realizes that I will not go on like this for ever though. More and more of our friends continue to split up it seems to be epidemic for people in their fourties will our M be one more of those trashed , only time will tell. It's been in the ninetys for three weeks (so no snow ha!) good thing my igloo has central air LOL! C.
