Well we continue to make progress all though very slowly (it is progress). Had a few mini talks this weekend and I'm feeling good about them, I hope W is. She appears to be coming out of her MLC tunnel, it,s been 20 months since the bomb I'm hoping she will recommit to our R I'm guardedly optomistic! We relate so much better on so many different levels now it's great. I've made it clear as well that if we were to seperate it would be amicable (because life is to short to waste on bitterness and anger )but not to expect for me to be readily available (for a phone call, chat, ect)as I am now. I've also made it clear that I will be looking for another R (when I'm ready emotionally) as I'm to young and healthy to give up sex at 46! This has all been addressed very calmly and maturely so as not to come across as a threat. It's funny I feel closer to my W now than I ever have and heaven help me if I ever take her for granted again. I realize our M may not make it but I'm in alot better place now than I was 20 months ago. It amazes me when I look back and see what a mess my M was and how brutal my R skills were. DBing has taught me to be a better, kinder, wiser, more tolerant person and to realize I'm human I'm not perfect but I have the ability to work on my flaws and over come my anxities. J thanks for stopping by I know you've got a lot on your plate right now hope things are going well. Don't know if my W issues are of the abuse nature but there is alot of emotional baggage there. C.
