ok heres what happened my W came over last night and talked some about the money issues we have. she had a list of things she wanted to try and save some money and pay off bills. she said she had t come over and get this handled that nite. its all stuff that we could of handle either through phone or email. when wwe got to talking nothing really got dealt with we really just talked in circles she said what she wanted to do and i agreed with what she wanted and thats really as far as it went. there was really nothing that we couldve done last nite any way. then we got to talking about the M and what went wrong and she said that there was noothing gonna change in the M she was done and didnt love me like a W should love a H. she has been acting real different sense a friend came back into town. sense he came back into town me and him have been hanging out going places like bars and stufff just having a good time . she knows that he is known for being good with the ladies and me and some oother friends all think it is affecting her. its not like i even want anyone else but im just doing the whole GAL thing and i think it is getting to her. so any ways back to last nite she told me she didnt want me talking to him about things anymore cause she doesnt want everyne to know her buissness but theres really nothing to tell everyone knows she left me and she says she is done. i talk to him and he gives me advise and he is usally correct he says everything the books say to do and he tells me what she is going to do and how she is going to react and he has been right with everything so far. sorry im getting sidetracked again. so like i was saying we talked about us and she said theres nothing i can do she is doone but yet here she sits for some reason she got a baby sitter for this talk wich we diffently could have done on the phone or with the kids there while they were playing. so some of my friends said you should ask her if she came over to get some. i did ask if she wanted to have sex and when i did she smiled from ear to ear like she was waiting for that ?. she said we cant do it, it would give me false hope i told her that i understand you want a divorce weather we do it or not. i asked again and said what if i kiss you and she smiled again i acted like i was gonna kiss her neck and she kinda wanted me to but backed off a little and told me she did want to but we culdnt. we talked about it for a minute and then i kissed her neck and then next thing i knew we were in the bedroom doing it. i kinda seemed to me that that was kinda the reason she came over. me and all my friends think that she was getting woried that she could maybe lose me or i could go and hook up with some one else so she wanted to try and pull me back in. i have also been not talking to her a lot latey and i have changed alot and everyone has been saying hoow much i have changed and how good i looked. when ever i am around her and all of our friends i havent been showing her any attention not cause i didnt want to i was just trying to detach. i think that it has deffently getting to her. so the ? is what do i make of this behavior and of the sex we had i think it is her way reaching oout ot me. she also told me we couldnt say anything to any body about this. sorry for the long post just trying to let peolpe understand more about the sitch. any advise about this would be great. thanks in adavnce mike
