fb2, I'm currently not on the power trip. \:\) I let go of it gradually over the past couple of months. I'm learning how to be assertive, not aggressive, & ask for what I want, instead of hoping he'll know & then getting pissed when he doesn't.

With regards to C, I had been going to her for about a year when H started coming every other week & seeing her on his own. She knew H was spying on me still, yet she continued to ask me questions week after week, knowing I was lying to her, & she kept things from me. IMO at the point that she needed to keep secrets from me, her initial client, she should have declared herself in conflict at also being H's therapist. Professionally, she should have kept me as the client, & helped H find someone else. Betray may be a strong word, but only I know the extent of what I discussed with her. I felt betrayed.

If you all think this is helping, I'll keep going. \:\)

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.